Resources for dealing with adultery

Resources for dealing with adultery

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The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict

Ken Sande / Peacemaker Ministries

This one Doesn’t necessarily deal with adultery, but it’s a helpful book on working through conflict and sin leading to forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration.

Restoring Your Broken Marriage: Healing after Adultery

Robert D. Jones / Christian Counseling and Education Foundation

Part of CCEF’s minibook series, which offers gospel-centered hope for everyday issues in a brief format that can be read about 30 minutes.

Help! My Spouse Committed Adultery: First Steps for Dealing with Betrayal

Winston T. Smith / Christian Counseling and Education Foundation

Another helpful minibook about adultery from CCEF.

Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration

Cindy Beall / FamilyLife Today

“A few days after an ordinary Valentine’s Day, Cindy Beall’s life changed forever. She listened with disbelief to her husband, Chris, a respected pastor, confess to pornography addiction, numerous affairs, and the startling news that a woman was pregnant with his child.”

Hope After Betrayal

Meg Wilson / FamilyLife Today

“Countless women have been blindsided by their husband’s sexual addiction. It is a shocking discovery that can leave women feeling hurt, ashamed, and even guilty. This book offers reassuring counsel, compassionate insight, and wise discretion—gently taking her readers through the steps to recovery.”

Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome: How to Grow Affair Proof Hedges Around Your Marriage

Nancy Anderson / FamilyLife Today

“From a woman who strayed to the other side of the marital fence–and returned to find forgiveness and restoration–comes this practical book about predicting and preventing an extra-martial affair.”


Making All Things New: Restoring Pure Joy to the Sexually Broken

David Powlison

“On the one hand, sex becomes a complex darkness. On the other hand, sex becomes a garden of simple, pure delights. Which picture represents you?”

Adultery and Reconciliation: 10 Years Later

Ed Welch

“If you had asked the betrayed partner before the adultery, ‘Do you think you could ever reconcile if your spouse was adulterous?’ Most would have said, with confidence, ‘no!’ Yet—many do. But how? What is their secret?”

Life After Adultery?: The Forgiveness Factor

Dwayne Bond / American Association of Christian Counselors

“Can a marriage recover from the devastation of adultery? This is the pervading question pondered by the adulterous couple as well as the counselor tasked with assisting them.”

Guarding Your Heart in Marriage (Part 1, Part 2, Part 3)

Cheryl Scruggs / Association of Biblical Counselors

“We seemed to have it all: professional success, adorable twin daughters and a good marriage by worldly standards. But our picture-perfect image concealed a widening chasm between two people unable to connect on an intimate level.”

3 Characteristics of a Repentant Spouse

Pastor Eric Mason

“As we grow as believers in Jesus Christ and become surrounded by more and more Christians, it’s easy to put on a façade. Often we aren’t willing to admit where we are spiritually because we’ve become skilled at hiding our weaknesses.”

Adultery and Counseling in the Local Church

Jonathan Holmes / Biblical Counseling Coalition

“Is the church a place and a people where the adulterer and victim of adultery can find hope and healing for their marriage? I’d like to discuss some of the benefits of counseling within the local church following the revelation of marital infidelity.”


Marriage After Adultery

Tim Lane

The initial shock and sense of hurt and betrayal that come from infidelity are devastating. How can you help a couple move through the trauma to encourage reconciliation and the rebuilding of trust?

Adultery: Can There Be a Day After the Worst Day Ever?

Tim Lane

The shock, sense of hurt and betrayal that come from infidelity is devastating. How can you help a couple through this trauma encouraging reconciliation and the rebuilding of trust?

Biblical Counseling Coalition on Adultery

The BCC has compiled numerous sermons, lectures, and other resources that address the topic of adultery.

Twelve Stones Ministries

“Sometimes circumstances in life become too hard to handle alone, or even in weekly counseling sessions. We provide one- to three-day counseling intensives in a retreat setting that is gospel-centered, and carefully tailored to each individual situation.”

For those at Mars Hill Church . . .

Redemption Groups are intense small groups that dig deep into difficult and seldom-discussed areas of life, such as abuse, adultery, addiction, and trials of all sorts. These groups are highly participatory and seek to show that the gospel is relevant to all troubles in life, even the most serious of troubles.

Also, the best way to deal with adultery is to avoid it altogether. Our pre-marriage class is one of the most longstanding ministries at Mars Hill Church, designed to help couples figure out if they’re suited for marriage with one another. For those that do get married, this class helps them establish a relationship based on the gospel that will endure to the glory of God.

Go to to learn more and sign up for a pre-marriage class, a Redemption Group, or individual counseling.

Mark Driscoll

Pastor Mark Driscoll is a Jesus-following, mission-leading, church-serving, people-loving, Bible-preaching pastor. He’s grateful to be a nobody trying to tell everybody about Somebody. Read More